Ten Steps to the Mitzvah of Tochacha (Commandment of Reproof) Part 4/4 ❦ Mussar Conversation #27

And now it's your turn. How do you share your own feelings and needs and ask for what you want without slipping into those violent old mindsets of blame, demands, and subtle attacks? And what if your friend says no, how do you practice self-care and good boundaries then? This is our fourth and final talk about how to have hard conversations. If you haven't had the time to watch here are the Ten Steps in one sentence: Make your friend feel safe, free, good, and understood; then say "when you ___, I feel ___. I need ___, so would you ___?" All the best as you walk the path of nonviolent tochacha!

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